Finding Marriage And Long-Term Relationships In Our Natal Astrology

If you browse through any astrology social media site these days, you’ll notice that most people are concerned about their relationships, often asking about which sun signs are compatible with theirs. Questions like “I have a Libra Ascendant and Venus in Virgo, but my boyfriend has an Aquarius Ascendant and Venus in Capricorn. Will our relationship last?” or “Who will I marry?” are common. Today, I’m going to dive into who we are destined to be with according to our birth charts. What follows is a description of what your natal chart has laid out for you. It shows how you relate and the possibility of who you will marry. Remember, the 7th house is special in that it describes how you do ALL your partnerships, from business partnerships to sporting partnerships to the “relationship/partnership” you have with your green grocer, and does not only describe your marriage partnerships. As you read through this you’ll see that the 9th house speaks of your second marriage and the 11th house your 3rd marriage, but in all of this, you will still be relating in the way set up by your 7th house. Also, the placement of the ruling planet of the 7th, 9th and 11th can be a good indicator of where you will meet your future partner (a topic I’ll be blogging about some time in the near future).

The 7th House: The House of Partnerships

The 7th house in astrology is all about partnerships, marriage, and significant one-on-one relationships. It shows how we relate to others, and not only what we seek in a partner, but also can describe the partners we end up with. Here’s a closer look:

Planets in the 7th House

• Venus in the 7th House: Venus here usually brings harmonious relationships. You seek beauty, balance, and affection in your partnerships. However, you might struggle with co-dependency or avoiding conflicts.
• Mars in the 7th House: Mars brings passion and intensity to relationships. You are drawn to dynamic, energetic partners. However, this can also mean conflicts and power struggles.
• Saturn in the 7th House: Saturn here indicates serious, long-term commitments. You may face delays or challenges in finding a partner but once you do, the relationship tends to be stable and enduring.

Aspects to planets in the 7th House

• Positive Aspects (Trines and Sextiles): These aspects can bring ease and harmony to your partnerships. They suggest smooth, supportive dynamics.
• Challenging Aspects (Squares and Oppositions): These aspects indicate potential conflicts and growth opportunities. They can create tension but also drive personal growth and deeper understanding.

Rulership of the 7th House

The sign on the cusp of your 7th house and its ruling planet can provide deeper insights into your relationship dynamics. For example:

• The sign on the 7th House Cusp: If you have, say, Gemini Rising then Sagittarius rules your 7th house, Jupiter is the ruling planet. Jupiter’s placement in your chart will influence your approach to relationships. If Jupiter is in Aquarius in the 9th house it might suggest a significant but unconventional connection (Aquarius) with a foreigner or someone from a different cultural background (9th house). This placement could also indicate that your first marriage involves long-distance travel or shared spiritual beliefs with an independant and visionary individual.

The 8th House: Shared Resources and Deep Commitment

The 8th house deals with shared resources, deep emotional bonds, and long-term commitments. It shows how you and your partner manage joint finances and intimate connections.

Planets in the 8th House

• Moon in the 8th House: The Moon here signifies deep emotional connections. You need to feel secure and emotionally supported in your relationships. However, this placement can also bring emotional volatility.
• Pluto in the 8th House: Pluto brings intensity and transformation. Relationships are powerful and transformative, often involving deep emotional and psychological change. There may be power struggles and issues of control.
• Jupiter in the 8th House: Jupiter expands and enriches shared resources. You are generous and supportive, but there’s also a risk of overindulgence or relying too much on your partner.

Aspects to the 8th House

• Positive Aspects: These aspects enhance growth and deepen bonds. They promote a supportive and enriching shared life.
• Challenging Aspects: These aspects indicate potential struggles and power dynamics. They can bring crises but also opportunities for profound transformation.

Rulership of the 8th House

The sign on the cusp of your 8th house and its ruling planet will shape how you handle shared resources and deep commitments. For example:

• Scorpio on the 8th House Cusp: If Scorpio rules your 8th house, Mars is the traditional ruling planet. Mars’s placement in your chart will influence your approach to shared resources and intimate connections. If Mars is in the 6th house, it might indicate that you and your partner’s shared resources are tied to your daily work or health routines. There could be dynamic experiences related to your work life or health that deeply impact your relationship.

The 9th House: The Second Marriage

The 9th house represents the second long-term relationship or marriage. It gives insights into how we approach this second chance at partnership.

Planets in the 9th House

• Mercury in the 9th House: Mercury brings intellectual connection and shared beliefs. Communication is key, and you value partners who share your outlook on life.
• Neptune in the 9th House: Neptune suggests idealism and spiritual connection. You seek a transcendent, almost dream-like partnership. However, there’s a risk of deception or disillusionment.
• Uranus in the 9th House: Uranus brings excitement and unpredictability. You are drawn to unconventional partners and may experience sudden changes in your relationships.

Aspects to the 9th House

• Positive Aspects: These aspects promote growth and mutual understanding. They suggest a harmonious and enriching partnership.
• Challenging Aspects: These aspects indicate potential conflicts or differences in beliefs. They can bring challenges but also opportunities for growth and deeper understanding.

Rulership of the 9th House

The sign on the cusp of your 9th house and its ruling planet can provide insights into your second marriage. For example:

• Leo on the 9th House Cusp: If Leo rules your 9th house, the Sun is the ruling planet. The Sun’s placement in your chart will influence your second marriage. If the Sun is in the 10th house, your second marriage may involve a partner who is prominent in their career or public life. You might share similar ambitions and aspirations, and your relationship could be very public or career-focused.

The 11th House: The Third Marriage

The 11th house represents the third long-term relationship or marriage. It highlights how we approach yet another chance at partnership.

Planets in the 11th House

• Sun in the 11th House: The Sun here focuses on shared goals and community involvement. You seek a partner who shares your aspirations and social interests.
• Mars in the 11th House: Mars brings dynamic energy and potential for conflicts. You are drawn to partners who are active and engaged in social causes or group activities.
• Venus in the 11th House: Venus promotes social harmony and mutual support. You value friendship and shared values in your relationships.

Aspects to the 11th House

• Positive Aspects: These aspects enhance collaboration and shared aspirations. They suggest a supportive and enriching partnership.
• Challenging Aspects: These aspects introduce tension or conflicting goals. They can bring challenges but also opportunities for growth and deeper understanding.

Rulership of the 11th House

The sign on the cusp of your 11th house and its ruling planet can provide insights into your third marriage. For example:

• Aquarius on the 11th House Cusp: If Aquarius rules your 11th house, Uranus is the secondary ruling planet. Uranus’s placement in your chart will influence your third marriage. If Uranus is in the 5th house, your third marriage may be unconventional and centered around creativity, children, or romantic expression. You might have a highly unique and exciting partnership. Saturn is the primary ruler of Aquarius and you will have to look at Saturn’s placement in this context as well.

The Influence of Other Houses on Marriage

The 4th House: Foundation and Emotional Security

The 4th house influences the foundation and emotional security in relationships. It highlights how childhood and family background impact partnerships.

• Family Dynamics: Your early family experiences shape how you approach relationships. A stable, supportive family environment can lead to healthier partnerships, while a challenging upbringing might bring issues to work through.
• Home Life: Creating a stable and nurturing home environment is crucial for a successful partnership. The 4th house shows how you establish and maintain your domestic life.

The 5th House: Romance, Creativity, and Children

The 5th house plays a significant role in romance, creativity, and children within relationships.

• Romantic Expression: The 5th house shows how you express love and passion. It highlights your creative and playful side in relationships.
• Creativity and Play: Maintaining a vibrant relationship involves fun and creativity. The 5th house reveals how you keep the spark alive and engage in joyful activities with your partner.
• Children: This house also speaks to the role of children in your relationships. It shows your approach to parenting and how children influence your partnership.

The Influence of Key Planets on Relationships

Sun: Ego, Identity, and Vitality

• Role in Relationships: The Sun represents your core identity and ego. It shows how you express yourself and what you need to feel vital and alive in a partnership.
• Placement and Aspects: The Sun’s placement in your chart and its aspects to other planets reveal how you shine in relationships and where you might face challenges.

Moon: Emotional Needs, Nurturing, and Security

• Role in Relationships: The Moon governs your emotional needs and how you nurture and seek security. It highlights your inner world and emotional dynamics in partnerships.
• Placement and Aspects: The Moon’s placement and aspects reveal how you express your emotions, what you need for emotional fulfillment, and potential areas of emotional conflict.

Mars: Passion, Drive, and Conflict

• Role in Relationships: Mars represents passion, drive, and conflict. It shows how you assert yourself, pursue your desires, and handle conflicts in relationships.
• Placement and Aspects: Mars’ placement and aspects indicate how you express your sexual energy, your approach to conflict, and areas where you might face power struggles.

Venus: Love, Beauty, and Harmony

• Role in Relationships: Venus governs love, beauty, and harmony. It shows what you value in relationships, how you express affection, and your aesthetic preferences.
• Placement and Aspects: Venus’ placement and aspects reveal your approach to love, what you find attractive, and potential areas of harmony or discord.

Other Planets: Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto, and Chiron

• Jupiter: Expands and enriches relationships, promoting growth and generosity. It can bring optimism but also risks of overindulgence.
• Saturn: Brings structure, commitment, and potential challenges. It emphasizes responsibility and long-term stability but may also indicate delays or hardships.
• Uranus: Introduces excitement and unpredictability. It promotes innovation and freedom but can also bring sudden changes and instability.
• Neptune: Adds idealism and spiritual connection. It fosters compassion and empathy but can also lead to deception or unrealistic expectations.
• Pluto: Brings intensity and transformation. It promotes deep emotional bonds and personal growth but may also indicate power struggles and profound changes.
• Chiron: Represents healing and woundedness. It highlights areas where you need to heal and grow in relationships. Chiron’s placement and aspects can reveal your deepest wounds and your potential to transform pain into wisdom and compassion in your partnerships.

Conclusion

Understanding marriage and long-term relationships through astrology involves looking at various houses, planets, and aspects in your natal chart. The 7th house describes your approach to partnerships, while the 8th house delves into shared resources and deep commitment. The 9th and 11th houses provide insights into second and third marriages, respectively. Additionally, the 4th and 5th houses play crucial roles in shaping the foundation, emotional security, romance, and creativity within your relationships.

By examining the influence of key planets like the Sun, Moon, Mars, and Venus, along with the roles of Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto, you can gain a comprehensive understanding of your personal relationship dynamics. Incorporating the rulerships of these houses adds another layer of depth, revealing how the ruling planets’ placements influence your partnerships. This holistic approach allows you to see both the positive and challenging aspects, helping you navigate and enrich your partnerships with greater awareness and insight.

Once you have found your partner, then looking at the synastry between you can reveal some of the compatibility potentials between you, but understanding the dynamics of your own astrology is the place to start.

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